Your worth is not defined by things like your size, your successes, the moments you fall short, the kind of car you drive, how well you cook, your personality type, or how you style your hair. Only YOU define your worth, sister. Everything else is just a distraction—keeping you from knowing who you truly are.
Read MoreEvery single day, we are bombarded with less desirable realities and circumstances. Things like heartbreak, fear and anxiety compete for our attention and at times it can all be a bit much, am I right? In those moments when we are on the verge of a breakdown, the lies begin to creep in. We begin to associate our circumstances and the emotions we’re feeling with our worth. When we feel depleted of our strength, we believe the whispers of words like “weakness” and “lazy”. When we lose our grip on our lives, we fear we aren’t tough enough to fight back. When we find ourselves sobbing in bed in the middle of the day, we put ourselves down for not having it together.
Read MorePersonally, it took me several years in relative isolation as a stay-at-home mom, a few identity crises, a prescription from my doctor, and a couple of years of soul-searching for me to finally accept I was enough as I was—no matter what that looked like at any given time. I went to counseling for a bit and formed some new views and friendships that made me feel supported and loved. It took far too long to get here, but I am finally learning and accepting my inherent worth. For some, it might take months or years to undo the lies you have believed for too long—but, like I said, you're worth it.
Read MoreI found myself wanting to explain what I used to do. I wanted to explain what happened and justify my reasons for moving on. I recognized how badly I wanted to label myself as something I thought was cool. I felt embarrassed that I was babysitting at 30-years-old, instead of just getting a job with regular hours. Then I felt bad about that, because I liked taking care of babies. I didn’t want to feel ashamed for following my own path. It may not work for other people to have the unpredictability of random temp jobs, but for me back then it was exactly what I needed.
Read MoreWhen you’re young, things are easy. You don’t think about yourself at a critical level. You’re in school, have friends, stick to your hobbies, and spend your free time evaluating the world around you and contemplating all of the opportunities life has in store for you. Then you grow up. Suddenly, you find yourself caught up in a world filled with self-doubt, deception and questions about what’s next. I don’t say this to be cynical—I really don’t. I say this because it wasn’t until recently that I realized just how much my own thoughts of myself and my talents were weighing me down.
Read MoreMany of us struggle to find our worth. We look at our lives and we see all the areas we fall short in, and we wonder how we could ever be of value. Maybe we have days where we accomplish something great or see a quality in ourselves that we like and we think, “Now that is what makes me worthy.” So, we try to do that thing again. We chase that feeling by trying to do more, be more, accomplish more, but in the end, we are left broken and alone. Feeling worthless once again. The problem is not that we aren’t trying hard enough. The problem is that we are looking for our worth in all the wrong places.
Read MoreWhen I was a teenager, with little to no clue about anything, I craved loved. Attention became everything I was after—no matter the consequences. I texted any boy who’d text me back. I acted entitled and pretended I was cool. I followed the crowd. I wore the Hollister shirts and braved short shorts in the winter. I took selfies in the mirror with the flash on, with my tongue out, and posted them to MySpace. That hot pink point-and-shoot camera had witnessed some horrible trends and cringe-worthy “I’m just fitting in” fads. Smh. Looking back, I feel incredibly sorry for the girl I once was. She was desperate and sad, with no sense of self-worth.
Read MoreIt’s so important to live loved and to realize you are not comparable to anyone else. No one will ever compare to you. In fact, from birth to death, your entire life, there is nobody in this world who could ever compare to you. You are so unique and loved. Don’t put yourself through the hardship of comparison. God loves every one of us the exact same. I don’t want anyone to experience the pain of feeling like they’re not good enough and loved less than others. Because it’s not true! God loves you so much. There is no one He loves more than you!
Read MoreIt’s nice to be loved, wouldn’t you agree? There is comfort and belonging found in the company of someone who truly loves you. When surrounded by people who deeply care for you, facing the world feels easier because you’re supported. But, with love, hurt almost always steals the goodness and joy that exists because of love. You see, no matter how deep another’s love burns for you, shortcomings and imperfections of our humanity will always hinder our perception of unconditional, real and pure love. That’s the beauty in knowing this truth—before you could earn love, it was already very much yours. You’ve been tirelessly working to grasp a hold of something that’s been in your possession for your entire life.
Read MoreHow many times have you found yourself lost in a search for who you are? Or, in the middle of a trying season, you look in the mirror and hardly recognize yourself? I think we’ve all been in and out of the “Who am I?” phases of life. This world is constantly trying to knock us down and wreck our spirits. It’s in those moments of barely hanging on, we can feel so far away from our true selves. When we talk about identity, we either feel confident and empowered or uncertain and fearful. Feeling good in our own skin makes us brave, while not knowing who we are scares the heck out of us. Maybe, for some of us, we are lingering in the space between.
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