Pursuing Honest Reflections of Love

BY: KENDRA CAGLE

Someday, you have to stop caring. You have to give up, and you have to move on. You have to stop looking to others to see your reflection. Someday, you have to stop looking at all the ways in which you need to be fixed and start to love exactly who you are. 

It’s not easy not to care. People are quick to provide their input and judgements, and you’ll never run out of critiques if you go looking for them. In the most formative times of life, you can forget who you are and spend your time obsessing over who everyone thinks you are. It’s a run of faceless days ruled by the labels given to you. 

But, on that someday, you wake up, and you start thinking about how your quirks are assets. You start naming out the flaws, the failures, and the weird little features only you have, and you realize that each of those things makes you perfect to serve a purpose. You start to realize that maybe the hiccups were training sessions and the scars were marks of pride to link you to others who carry similar badges. 

In a series of life-changing days, you start to see what He sees. You start to realize why you don’t look like her or think like him. You start to see each intricate puzzle piece that was carefully formed and placed in you—and, as it comes together, you see His masterpiece. 

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart, I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5 (NIV)

You may have heard this a hundred times, but if it was true for Jeremiah, it is true for you. Every part of you is intentional, and you start to feel it. All those seemingly flawed and utterly human pieces move together to form a person who will impact the world in a way no other can. You see how much care God put into you from the beginning of the beginning, and you cannot deny the love that floods your spirit. 

You may not look like her. You may not think like him. You may not be everything or anything that everyone else wants you to be, but you are perfection. How can you deny the truth of God’s plan for you? He knew you before you were, and He made you exactly as He had planned. There is no flaw in you that came from Him, and no fault formed is without the immeasurable grace God so freely gives. 

You are loved. You are meant to be. Every bit of you is exactly as it should be and makes you able to influence in a way no one else can.

You can’t deny it. So, you stop caring. You give up. You move on. You stop looking at anyone else other than the loving, omniscient Father who formed you with the utmost intention. In His eyes you see love, and you forget why you looked anywhere else. 


Kendra is a loving wife, tired mom, and lifelong preacher's kid. She currently resides with her family, 2 cats, and 1 dog in a little blue house in Oklahoma.