Why Vulnerability is Worth the Risk

BY: KELLY JOY FJESTAD

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There is a cost to this life. A cost to relationships. A cost to connection. A cost to being human. 

Vulnerability comes with risk. The risk of rejection. The risk of betrayal. The risk of disappointment.

There is a quote from one of Beth Moore’s studies that has always stuck with me. She was having a conversation with her daughter about God and her daughter said, “He knows it is hard to be us.” 

That has always stuck with me. God knows it is hard to be us. 

Jesus walked this earth as a man. He struggled. He was tempted. He knew pain. He knew what it was like to be betrayed by a close friend, to be denied by one of his best friends. He knew abuse. He knew what it was like to come from a blended family—to be raised by a man who was not his biological father. He knew what it was like to have family not believe in his calling and purpose. He knew exhaustion and pain. He knew heartbreak and loneliness. God knows it is hard to be us. 

And yet, despite the risk, we are called to relationship. We are called to lay down our lives and open our hearts to those God places in our path. 

The night before Jesus was crucified, he knew one of his twelve closest friends was about to betray him for a mere 30 pieces of silver. Instead of putting up walls around his heart and responding in hurt, anger, and frustration, Jesus chose to be vulnerable and washed the feet of the man who was about to betray their friendship. 

Jesus chose to remain vulnerable even when he knew he was about to be deeply wounded. He chose to serve and to love those who were about to break his heart. He left us an example of what it means to love. 

Vulnerability allows us to love deeply. It causes us to serve others, even when there is a high risk we will be hurt. Vulnerability is worth the risk because, in our most vulnerable moments, we reveal the true power of Christ in us. We could not take those risks on our own, but when we allow the Spirit of God to flow through us, we can keep our hearts open even in times of unimaginable pain. 

“But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is perfected in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly in my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest on me.  That is why, for the sake of Christ, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” 2 Corinthians 12:9-10


Kelly is a wife and mother of five children living in Sioux Falls, South Dakota. She is an ordained minister and author of PAUSED: Protecting Your Faith When God Says "Wait" and Pursuit: The Cross. For more info visit: kellyjoy.org