I Messed Up, Now What?

BY: NIKKI MICHELLE CHARNSTROM

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I’ve been a bad friend, a horrible daughter, and sometimes, a lousy dream chaser. I’ve broken promises, spoken harshly to those I love, and lost sight of what it means to be a follower of Jesus. I don’t always make the right choices and, at times, I let myself down because I’ve made excuses. I can’t stick to a diet to save my life—but that’s a work in progress—and I let my independent spirit push others away. The list goes on and on. 

I make mistakes. Go figure. But that doesn’t mean I’m not cut out to be the best damn friend you’ve ever had or measure up to the potential my parents see in me. Failure doesn’t mean my dreams won’t take flight and maybe, just maybe, those jeans will eventually fit just right. 

You see, it doesn’t matter how many times I trip up. What matters is how I bounce back—giving my potential the room to move. I can be the worst girlfriend, sister, and entrepreneur, but when I lead with my ability to perform well, success can filter through every area of my life. 

What do I mean by that? It’s all about showing yourself grace. If you are constantly putting yourself down for all of the ways you’re not enough, potential will never find you. The only words you’ll ever hear in your head are, “You’re just going to mess that up again” and, “Don’t even bother, you’re just wasting time.”

When you cloud your thoughts with negativity and failure, you will miss opportunities to succeed. Trampling all over your potential won’t get you to where you want to go or the woman you want to be. I promise you, it’s not conceited to give yourself a pat on the back or an “atta, girl” when you do something right. It’s also not a bad idea to encourage yourself and find a reason to laugh when you make a silly mistake. Trust me, I do it ALL the time. I’m pretty sure it happened just last week as I tried locking my gym locker with my car keys. 

So, you messed up. BIG DEAL. You’ll have a second, third, fourth chance to get it right. Let’s decide right here, right now that we will no longer allow failure to rule our lives. Our mistakes will not dictate our future. Shortcomings will not hold us back. Insecurities cannot tell us what we can or cannot do. 

Instead, we will give POTENTIAL the power to reign over our actions, thoughts and emotions. We will show ourselves patience and grace to make things right—and when we fall short, we will forgive ourselves and move on. 

We were made for so much more. It’s time we gain back control and let potential take the lead.


Nikki is the owner and founder of Crowned Chics. She lives in the warm desert of Phoenix, Arizona with her beloved family. If she's not ferociously clanking away on her typewriter, she's behind the camera capturing moments for her business Charnstrom Captures Photography.