Your Habit Might be Toxic If...
BY: NIKKI MICHELLE CHARNSTROM
We are a mixture of both healthy and toxic habits. Some of our routines serve us well, while others don’t propel us forward. So, why do we hold onto those that set us back? Good question… Perhaps, it’s because we tend to ignore our flaws. Or, maybe, we’re just downright ignorant to the things we’re doing that are actually hurting us.
For the next few minutes, let’s take a good, honest and hard look at how we spend our days. Girl, put your pride aside for a second, and let’s be real with one another. We cannot fully embrace change if we don’t first give ourselves the time to take inventory of our day-to-day operations and rituals.
Here’s the thing… before I go to bed, and when I wake up, the first thing I tend to think about is checking my phone, catching up on emails, scrolling Instagram, and replying to texts I didn’t set time aside for all day. It’s completely horrible. This is a toxic habit. Especially, when I am trying to work on bettering my morning routine, and easing myself into the day. Checking my emails before I even take my first step out of bed is the absolute worst way to begin my day. It automatically triggers the part of my brain that won’t slow down.
Do you do this? Once I’ve decided I hit the snooze button enough, but I don’t want to physically get out of bed yet, I use my phone and email as an excuse. It’s ridiculous. Yeah, maybe I get to lay in bed for another 10 minutes, but that’s time I could have used enjoying my beloved hazelnut mocha soy latte. While this habit has been a beast to kick, I know it’s toxic and it’s time I allow myself room to grow. There’s no growth happening during those extra 10 minutes in bed, scrolling through nonsense on Instagram from four days ago. Hello? Who cares! Get your booty up!
Are you wondering if your habit is toxic but you’ve been waiting for confirmation? Well, babe, here it is. You’ve got a toxic habit if…
1. It physically or emotionally hurts you.
Now, this is a topic of discussion we could dive into for an entire month but we won’t go there. But, girlfriend, if you’re doing something that inflicts pain on you PLEASE stop. You’re too beautiful and far too valuable to cause yourself physical pain. Second, if you find yourself feeling trapped in a daily decision you can’t let go of that leads to emotional stress, seek help. Mental health is everything, and no one or no thing could ever be worth jeopardizing it. I promise you.
2. It gets in the way of the woman you are becoming.
You’ve got big hopes and dreams, right? I’m about to break it to you, girlfriend… you are NOT going to get there if YOU are the one getting in your own way. If you don’t first treat your time, energy and talent with care, no one else will. If you want to step into your destiny, you are going to need to ensure your own success through the habits and behaviors you do every single day.
3. It impacts the lives of those around you.
Some of us know we’ve got a bad habit, but we tend to let it linger because we believe it only affects us. WRONG. It doesn’t matter who you are or what you do, your actions have the power to positively or negatively impact other people. What does that mean exactly? We should be less selfish and apologize when we’ve allowed our poor choices to bring someone else down. Lead by example when it comes to your attitude, girl! People are watching whether you want them to or not. Let your life be a resounding inspiration to those around you — near and far!
Analyzing your behaviors and habits can be scary. But, wouldn’t you rather know what you need to change and move forward, rather than sitting in the stagnancy of disappointment? I hope so! Know I am praying for you, sister, as we walk through this challenging series together.
After reading this, did you find a habit you should probably trash? If so, please let me know in the comments! Let’s support one another in honesty and vulnerability, and who knows… our struggles may be similar… there is belonging here. Don’t ever forget that.
Nikki is the owner and founder of Crowned Chics. She lives in the warm desert of Phoenix, Arizona with her beloved family. If she's not ferociously clanking away on her typewriter, she's behind the camera capturing moments for her business Charnstrom Captures Photography.