Love Yourself First: How to be Your Own Biggest Supporter



February is all about love. It's the month of course when we celebrate Valentine's Day and can be a very special time for couples, but you might be dreading it just a bit if you're single. Or perhaps you're in a relationship but never understood why you had to rush out and buy all the bouquets of flowers, chocolate candies and giant teddy bears you can find (not to mention the fact that many Valentine's Day displays seem to go up in stores right after Christmas)! If you're not so into the holiday or even if you are, maybe it's just a good time to shower yourself with some love and TLC — a reminder to take time for yourself. In that case, here's some tips from me to you. Self love for me is two parts — actually loving and appreciating yourself internally and secondly, the outward actions you do to keep yourself happy, healthy and full of love.  

  • I've previously talked about this in other blog posts, but I think just having an overall confidence in yourself can work wonders. Sure, that's easier said than done, but try to compliment yourself once a day. What's something you do well or you enjoy about yourself? Make a list of all of your top qualities and what others like about you.

  • Try not to criticize yourself. We are our own worst critics sometimes, but remind yourself you're doing the best you can. That's really all you can do in life. Forgive yourself for anything that is bothering you or mistakes you may have made.

  • Think positive. We all have our down moments and negative thoughts, but try to find the bright side of every situation if possible. 

  • Talk it out. If it's harder for you to give yourself a pat on the back, chat with a friend or family member. They can remind you to see the good in yourself or offer a perspective you might not be seeing.

  • Stop comparing yourself to others. We're all guilty of this, but you're you for a reason! No one else is like you, and that's a good thing. Embrace what makes you different.

  • Get some inspiration. One of my best friends and I send each other positive quotes pretty much daily. If I'm ever having a bad day, I pull up one of the quotes or look online for positive words and images that make me happy.

  • Now here comes more of the fun part — do something relaxing, just for you. Spoil yourself! Maybe that's a nice bath, getting a massage or facial, buying yourself that book you've been eyeing or getting your favorite meal for dinner. Have some flowers delivered or go see a movie. Anything at all you enjoy that you wouldn't take the time to do normally. 

Hoping some of these ideas help. Here's a happy holiday full of love..for yourself!

Julie is a digital producer, on-air news anchor, writer and a self-proclaimed history and classic rock geek. When she's not behind the scenes or mid broadcast, she's hitting the town trying new restaurants or meeting up with as many friends as possible in one day.