You've Already Been Crowned in Purpose
By: Kendra Cagle
Anyone else out there desperate to find the purpose/calling/meaning of your entire existence? This is pretty much at the top of my hobby list. Everyone in my family seems to know exactly why God put them here, and I’m over here taking interest inventories every few months to see if there’s some magic answer that suddenly pops up.
I know this drive for purpose is a cornerstone of my generation. I’m an older millennial, but I still have that “if it doesn’t mean something, why do it” perspective on life. I look into every experience (i.e. overthink like a madwoman) to find out why I’m in it and what I uniquely offer. Sometimes, I think that penny I picked up after class in the third grade was my purpose. Like God willed me to pick it up and set some bigger plan into motion, and POOF! Kendra’s purpose is fulfilled — she's earned her crown. It sounds a little looney but that has been, in one form or another, a legitimate fear of mine.
The only thing that’s managed to really change my perspective and help me calm my crazy, has been motherhood. I’m not saying motherhood has made me saner because that would be a big fib. I’m saying that having a kid rocks your world and gives God a chance to open up your eyes to a lot.
"Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God — children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God." John 1:12-13
I didn’t understand what being a child really meant until I was a parent. I was taught to see God as my father, but I had no perspective on the love and sacrifice that goes into raising a child. My kid has thrown food at me on more than a few dozen occasions, and there isn’t a thing in this world I wouldn’t do to make sure he is always safe and loved.
Parenthood creates this crazy kind of love in you. Your kid looks like an outer space potato when they’re born, and you’re convinced they are the best thing to ever be created. I love my son. I would fiercely defend him until the end, and you know what? I couldn't care less what car he drives, what job he has, or what title he earns on this earth. I used to think all of those things would matter. Years ago, when my husband was my boyfriend, we had an actual argument about how I thought our future children should go to college no matter what. I thought that was the sign of proper parenting to force my kid into a socially acceptable education even if he ended up wanting to be a roaming artist or something totally out of the structure of traditional higher ed. I used to think those things mattered. That is until I knew what it was like to love my actual child.
So, if we are God’s children, what does he expect of us? We fight so hard to find this big purpose. We’re all out there chasing promotions, taking quizzes, changing majors all in a search to be who God intended us to be when that isn’t the way to our crown of purpose at all.
You know what I want for my son? I want him to follow Christ, love his life, make decisions he is proud of, have compassion for others, and just make the absolute most out of this one single earthly life he has been given. And you know what? I believe that’s what God wants for us. That is our purpose. We glorify him not in our worldly accomplishments but with our every breath. When our lives reflect his love, we find purpose in the act of living every day. For some of us, there are titles and rewards in the plan. For others, we may live quiet lives on nice suburban streets. But all of us, have one defining and overarching purpose — to glorify. To show the world the blessing of just being God’s child. That doesn’t require fame or a sparkling reputation. We all have it!
Welcome to your purpose, lovely, powerful women of God. It’s taken me a long time to get here, and I feel blessed to live every moment of this life next to each of you. When you get lost and start searching for that purpose again, remember you’re living in it — you've already been crowned in it. Every word. Every smile. Every second you live is praise to our Father.
Kendra is a loving wife, tired mom, and lifelong preacher's kid. She currently resides with her family, 2 cats, and 1 dog in a little blue house in Oklahoma.