Have You Earned Your Crown?

By: Nikki Michelle Charnstrom


As women, I firmly believe we are the master crown-wearers. We endure, persevere and come back stronger. Since you were a young girl, you’ve worn a crown but, over time you’ve traded it in for another (and another). In life, we walk through seasons and in those we have the opportunity to take off one crown and put on another. 

Childhood is typically adorned with innocence that is soon removed by the brutal years of adolescence. Don’t get me wrong, growing up and discovering yourself is one of the most exciting parts of getting older. Yet, from the moment we step into the teenage years, we must retire that crown of innocence. Can anyone relate to trashy high school wardrobes in an attempt to be noticed? Or how about that unwavering obsession to fit in?

Trudging through those years leading up to adulthood might have looked different for you and I’m not here to say we all battled with insecurity, but for most of us, it happens. I found the beautiful reality of accepting myself in my first year of college and let me tell you, since then it’s been refreshing. Life is made a whole lot easier if we choose to wear the crown of personal approval.

However, life doesn’t always allow us to wear flattering crowns and that’s okay. At times, we pick up a crown we have no desire to, yet we place it on our heads anyway. Can you think of a time in your life when you suddenly became someone you weren’t proud of? I know for me, I really struggled with selfishness in those said, teenage years. Sometimes it takes a series of embarrassing, ugly crowns to realize you’ve been wearing the wrong one.

I’m not here to tell you that perfect crown is out there because frankly, it’s not. The one you wear will look much different than the one on my head. So, comparing your crown to that of a seemingly “accomplished” woman is not only worthless but impossible. Crowned Chics is a place where we embrace our individuality and accept our imperfections. I don’t want you to exist only to shape and manipulate your crown to match mine. I celebrate the very one on your head! When you look up and realize the one you have on right now isn’t the most favorable, please know I still bow down to you.

You’re a queen, my lady. That crown might not look how you want it to at the moment, but I promise you this is only temporary. I think those moments in our lives when our crowns don’t match what’s in our hearts, we discover something valuable within.

So, have you earned your crown? Most certainly! You are royalty simply because you’re worth every good thing. You’re going to pick up that crown you’ve been eyeing one day because there will come a time when you’ll want to stand tall and proud of the woman you’re becoming. So, look in the mirror and appreciate what lies upon your head at this very moment. Your present crown is preparing you for one a bit shinier and no matter what, you’ve earned it.


Nikki is the owner and founder of Crowned Chics. She lives in the warm desert of Phoenix, Arizona with her beloved family. If she's not ferociously clanking away on her typewriter, she's behind the camera capturing moments for her business Charnstrom Captures Photography.